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Starting 2018 With Self Compassion

January 2018 Wellbeing Message:

Starting 2018 with self-compassion.

Tackling negative self talk and taming the inner critic.

With January well and truly underway, many of us have returned to work more determined than ever to put some of those New Years’ Resolution goals into practice.

Whether it is to learning new skills, getting more sleep or even losing a few pounds – facing a new year gives us a new opportunity to kick stat new habits for better health, well-being and success.

Although New Years’ resolutions can be a positive, motivating force, they can also lead to high levels of self-criticism or negative self-talk (e.g. the internal conversation you have with yourself).

Focusing on what you didn’t achieve in 2017 and regrets from the previous year often sparks negative self-talk with thoughts such as “did I do enough last year?”, leading to emotions of guilt, disappointment and shame.

Studies have found that negative self-talk is one of the major blocks in achieving goals, demotivating people into inaction by lowering people’s sense of their own capabilities and self-worth. In addition, shame is highly linked to an increased risk in developing depression. However, there are alternatives.

Drawn from Buddhist psychology, self-compassion is a relatively new concept introduced in the last decade. The simple definition of self-compassion, is the act of being kind to yourself unconditionally. Instead of judging and criticising yourself when reflecting over last year, self-compassion allows you to be kind and understanding to yourself when confronted with unmet goals, mistakes or regrets.

Having self-compassion means being able to recognize the difference between making a bad decision and being a bad person.

Self-compassion can help tackle the impact of negative self-talk, increasing self-acceptance which leads to higher levels of motivation, increasing your ability to meet your goals.

Research throughout the last decade has consistently found significant links between self-compassion and improved self-worth and resilience as well as more satisfying and healthy relationships. These all contribute to self-compassion significantly improving psychological wellbeing.

Please see below for a recent TedX talk on self-compassion by Kristin Neff.

Watch TEDTalk on self-compassion by Kristin Neff.

Tips for implementing self-compassionate:

1. Treat yourself as you would a small child.

2. Practice mindfulness.

3. Remember that you’re not alone.

4. Give yourself permission to be imperfect.

5. Seek support.

If you or someone close to you needs support, contact Acacia Connection for an appointment.

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The Workshop Lab is part of the Acacia Connection Group and delivers specialised workplace training designed to provide employees with the skills they need for developing optimal health, happiness and workplace effectiveness.

Our top workshop picks this month...

1. Self Care Strategies Workshop

This workshop provides real strategies and insight into the science behind the importance of physical, mental, cognitive and social well-being for optimal functioning in the workplace.

Duration: available in 2-Hr, 3-Hr or Half Day.

This workshop sends a message that the organisation not only cares about employee health and well-being but also recognises the link between self-care and productivity.

2. Developing a Culture of Compassion & Empathy Workshop

This workshop is new for 2018 and focuses on the importance of building a culture around compassion and empathy. This workshop focuses on extending compassion for yourself and others including , colleagues and customers. This is especially important during difficult times which is quite often when we need to extend out compassion and empathetic skills the most. 

Duration: available in 2-Hr or 3-Hr. 

Ask us for workshop overviews if these spark your imagination. 
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